Comments on: In Light Of Valentine’s Day

By: Shannon

Shannon — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 21:59:22 +0000

@Lesli: I like what you said about love being peaceful rather then making your heart race all the time. I think that’s the big difference with Justin & when I think back to previous exes… I definitely feel emotion with Justin & infatuation & the feeling of being ‘in love’, but he also made me feel calm & peaceful & totally secure. The heart racing & sleepless nights that came with other exes developed out of fear… fear that they’d never call again, fear of breaking up, fear that they’d hurt me, stuff like that. With Justin, he just made me feel so at peace, I knew it wasn’t the same (in a good way).

@Peggy: You’ve been holding out on me! I didn’t know you were dating someone. Email me & fill me in, woman! I do think a lot of people don’t know who they’re marrying. I think more often though that people know exactly who they’re marrying deep down, but they ignore the red flags or convince themselves that the person will change for them (or stay changed).

I say that, but I was far from perfect when Justin dated me. I actually think he’s more impressed by who he married than who he dated.

By: Peggy

Peggy — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 01:03:32 +0000

I really liked this article. I’ve started dating this guy and I was talking to one of the girls in my ward about it. She was asking me if he’s ever kissed me. I said no. She than asked how long we’ve been dating. I said three months or so. She was just amazed that I hadn’t already made out with him. I told her that I would actually like to spend the time to find out if I like this guy before I kiss him or anything. She didn’t quite seem to understand what I was saying. Though another lady in my ward has an idea that before people get married they should take an exam to see how much they know about their future spouse. I think that’s going a little too far, but I think that sometimes people really don’t know who it is they’re marrying.

By: Lesli

Lesli — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 05:22:51 +0000

I’m so glad you wrote this, and unnamed person on facebook who just went through a divorce keeps talking about “love” and quoting romance movies. I keep wanting to say, that isn’t love that is infatuation (lust is actually what I was thinking). Love is not glamorous, its a quite dignity that you grin and bear when fiances are tough, work sucks, the baby is sick and life isn’t what it was cracked up to be. To me love is, being annoyed at my husband, until the neighbor who is terrible sick calls and asks for a priesthood blessing from my worthy husband, and me forgetting what petty thing I was upset about. Oh yes, I remember now, I didn’t marry my husband because he was perfect and our infatuation would last forever, but because I knew I’d love him when the baby is screaming, and my blood sugar has dropped. Because I knew I wouldn’t be happy without him sitting next to me, for every day until I’m least 80, no matter how many times life sucks in the next 50 years. Love is a quiet thing, that forgets mistakes and puts your heart at ease. Not that makes it race. Love is not a romance movie. Sorry I’ve been dragging on. I’ll stop. I’m just glad other people see the distinction between love and infatuation.